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LIVE UNCONDITIONALLY

March 4, 2010 on 1:23 am | In life coaching | No Comments

We all know people who live conditionally:  I will play more golf but when I retire; I will travel but when I get a raise; I will buy some nice clothes but when I lose weight.  There is nothing wrong with rewarding yourself for achieving something special, whether it’s retirement or weight loss.  But there is also something powerful about treating yourself now.  Constant but-when’s lead to the blahs.  It is important to supplement the sticks with the carrots.

 

Make a list of small ways to treat yourself (a round of golf, an hour of uninterrupted reading, a weekday matinee movie).  Pick the item that most sparks your interest right now.

 

Do the legwork.  Where can I play golf?  How much does it cost?  Can I rent the clubs?  When can I go in the next two weeks? 

 

Be flexible.  Is the course too far away?  Consider a driving range.  Is the club too intimidating?  Book a lesson.   

 

Do it and then do it again and then do it again.  Experience your reward several times in the near term.  But fit it into your life as it is right now.  Don’t quit your job to get the time, don’t mortgage the house to get the money.  Find a way to fit it into your existing life.   

 

You need to repeat the reward several times to get used to treating yourself well, just because.  This is living unconditionally.  You need to practice living unconditionally because it sends the message that you are worth it right now and right as you are.  In this way it is as powerful as loving unconditionally.  When you love someone unconditionally, they feel that and they benefit strongly.  When you live unconditionally, you benefit from an inspired life, a confident life, and freedom from the blahs.